Feminism is not a gender war against the male folk, it never was, quite the opposite. It is seeking equal opportunities, compensations and treatments for both genders. Feminism is demanding equal pay for Morayo, just as Femi at the BBC or in the corporate world of banking.
Feminism is Aisha Deborah still having the chances of getting married even after having a kid out of wedlock just like Ahmed who has 3 kids out of wedlock and not spat upon and stigmatized.
Feminism is Ngozi, Naomi or Royco demanding to have a seat at the table without fear of marginalization just as Jake Emeka.
Feminism is demanding that (Akon Ikpeme) a woman is eligible to run for public office or be sworn in as a Chief Judge in her husband’s state (Cross River) even if her ancestral home town is genealogically Akwa Ibom.
But oh, she was deemed a “security threat”.
At its core in a broader sense, the tenets upon which feministic theories and ideologies predicate, are equal cultural, social, political, legal, and economic rights for women when put on par with their male counterparts. These are inalienable rights as contained in article 1, universal declaration of human right, which states inter alia, “All humans are born free and equal in dignity and in right, and they are endowed with reason and conscience and should act towards one another in a spirit of brotherhood.”
Free and equal, in dignity and rights?
Yet, the CFO, COO & CEO seats are male-dominated with a handful of females in mid-level, and a few sprinkled at entry-level management? Let’s not even talk about the unequal pay that women receive as against their male colleagues. But then, the fingers on my left hand are not also equal, but asymmetrical.
From the very First Wave of feminism in the 19th – 20th century which focused on addressing the legal inequalities, particularly in demanding equal rights to vote just as her male counterpart, to the Second Wave of the 60s-80s which addressed the cultural inequalities, gender biases and the roles women are relegated to play in the society even to the Third Wave of the 90s-2000s which was a continuation of the Second Wave movement and was aimed at correcting the perceived shortcomings of the Second wave.
Noticed how all the waves are making demands for equal rights? Demands! Rights! That’s it.
The unfairness, discrimination and oppression are truly mind-boggling. Feministic actions are organized beliefs, ideas, movement and decisive actions that aim to promote changes in the society, put an end to a pattern, a norm that is greatly unbalanced towards the female gender.
A clear cause is what Feminism stands for, and not the headless, bitcoin-like volatility that has become a norm on TwitterNG lately. Feminism is speaking up against the injustice that the society administers daily, in subtle doses on the female gender. Feminism is crying to be heard and be heard at all cost.
Misogyny, chauvinism, sexism and rape are being normalized, and there is a steady round the clock work to cloak them in a veil of banality, so these vices could be accepted as the societal norm. These, are just a few of social ills that feminism should call attention to, and fix.
Society (we) created asymmetrical rights that tilt in favour of the male gender, more than his female counterpart; a dichotomist belief and value that places premium leverage on the male child over the female child. Talk about male privilege!
A very good number of modern-day societal structures and institutions tend to be more patriarchal and mostly male-dominated. The keys to the kingdom most times lie with Kunle Abdul rather than Vivian Osakwe. This is an imbalance, an aberration, and an anomaly that feminism should address.
The society even celebrates the sexual exploits of men and frowns upon the sexual liberties of women. Women are shunned for having multiple sexual partners, yet a man gets a pat on the shoulder for same. Talk about double standards! The man becomes the bro, and the woman a hoe.
How demeaning could it get?
Feminism does not have a selective voice when a perceived injustice is done, why? A societal or male gender-centric injustice to a 5-year-old female child is an injustice to a 40-year-old woman; hence the voices of gender collectivism, solidarity and activism from the cold should rise up. Feminism does not belong to a WhatsApp campaign group with the intent to slander or a Twitter Feminist Coven with the sole objectives to smear.
Feminism is not “misandrism” hence, a feminist is not a vindictive, bitter, hateful misandrist (a person who dislikes, despises, or is strongly prejudiced against men or boys) who sees no light or good in any man.
Be a feminist that stands for progressiveness, growth and gender equality.
But then, is the world truly ready for FEMINISM?