This is as random as a post can be!
I have a wedding to attend today. My white gown, purple heels, wig and jewellery are all laid out. If only I’ll get ready and head off to the wedding. But, I’m seated on this toilet seat, taking a dump while typing and asking myself why exactly I’m not yet married.
My best friend and his wife have been gisting and laughing in the kitchen for the past hour
As I listen to both of them, I can’t help but smile
“What is wrong with these silly lovebirds?” I shake my head.
It is beautiful
They are beautiful
Three days ago, one of my mamas asked me on Facebook when I was bringing a man home
“Not anytime soon, mummy”, I told her.
And I meant it.
This same week, my jolly friend shouted, “BJ, you are getting old, go and marry!”
My response? “Nope baby, not just yet”.
But seated here, answering my friend’s wife who’s asking why I’ve been in the loo for this long
I can’t help but ask myself again, “Why are you not married, Gelax?”
The truth is, I know why.
I love love love the concept of marriage
And contrary to what you may think, I’m not afraid of commitment
Even though I don’t have a dream wedding, I’ll be getting married soon.
But here’s why I’m not married…
I’m not married because I’m not ready
Well… we are not ready.
I swear, it’s that simple.
I don’t care how old my parents think I’m getting
I don’t care if all my younger siblings get hitched before me
I don’t care if all their children call me aunty.
Actually, I’d rather they called me Gelax. Just Gelax.
Marriage for me is a headspace thing.
I’m of the strong belief that above all other things,
One must be mentally ready before deciding to tie those nuptial knots.
Today, I’ll be getting many “Why are you not yet married?” at the wedding
And I’m just here reminding myself of why
Call it bracing up, or whatever.
So, when people ask me at today’s wedding when am I getting married
I’d say, next year
Or the year after next year’s next.
Because truthfully, I don’t know
The only thing I know for a fact is…
I’m running late for today’s wedding!