Hey Stars! How are you today?
Hope it’s a sunny Sunday over there? It’s all bright and beautiful right here and what’s more, I’m at Gail’s place with Chime for some Sunday rice and stew.😋 Nigerians sure know how important Sunday rice is, and your girl
can’t cook won’t cook to save her life!
Anyway, I thought to share what’s on my mind with you this sunny-day.
For a long time, I was so worked up about the fact that some of my close friends and family members haven’t been supporting my brand as much as I wanted. This got me really pissed because to know me is to know I have a brand called Gelax Chatroom. I literally never stop talking about it.
My colleagues, my friends, my boyfriends, my acquaintances never hear the last of it. My brand is basically all that makes up my thoughts and words. So naturally, I EXPECT the people I love and who claim to love me to take Gelax Chatroom as passionately as I do. Not just because it means a lot to me, but because, that’s what I would do about the things they are passionate about. Get my drift?
This was why not getting the same energy made me bitter and I didn’t even know!
A couple of weeks ago, someone on my contact list complained about it but I got defensive. Not long after, one of my closest buddies also made mention of it and, I explained it away. But I couldn’t shut out the nagging feeling that came after that.
How did I move from Miss Flowery to Miss Bitter? How? It didn’t make any sense.
I told myself it must be my menstrual cycle or hormonal imbalance or something, but I knew in my heart that I was only lying to myself.
I decided to cut the crap, sat me down and did a thorough soul search.
Gelax, what exactly is wrong with you? Why are you bitter? What happened to your light and fragrance? Where is Miss Flowery?
It didn’t take long to pin it down to these:
1. I was expecting people to be unto me as I was unto them.
2. Because they weren’t doing that, I STOPPED HELPING this set of people. I felt they didn’t deserve my support if I wasn’t getting theirs.
This realization made me sad and I cried.
I cried because I’m a preacher of (unconditional) love. I believe in loving people and supporting them because you can and not because of what you can get from them. And there I was, refusing to support people I care about because they weren’t supporting me.
It broke my heart and I had to pray to God for forgiveness. I knew how bitter I felt and there was no way I could pick myself up without God’s help, so I asked Him to help me to keep loving and supporting these ones who I felt weren’t supportive.
It was tough but, guess what?
I felt peace again. My light began to glow again. It was so beautiful that I felt stupid for ever losing that in the first place. And for what?
One thing God dropped in my heart during my soul-searching process was this question, “What have you done to deserve the people who do not know you personally, yet support your brand fiercely like it’s theirs?”
I was ashamed of myself.
Just this morning, I heard a Joel Osteen’s sermon on City FM. He was preaching about why we should help others accomplish their dreams in whatever way we can even while working on ours. He told the story of how Lakewood Church and his father helped a Spanish church with the construction of their building while Lakewood Church was still trying to raise developmental funds for itself.
And this dropped on my mind, “When you become a celebrity, can you possibly know 1/1000 of the fans who would be loyal to you and everything that pertains to you?”
My answer was a no brainer.
Also, last night, my mentor told me why I shouldn’t ever have bad attitude towards someone because I expect them to be or act in a certain way.
You see, we can’t always control what people do to us, but we sure have absolute control over how we react or let it affect us. I was vexed at these people for so long that it made me a bitter person. To think they might have had no idea whatsoever!
I was giving them double power; the power to get me annoyed and the ones power to rob me of my joy, peace, fragrance and glow.
Phew! That was definitely me losing way too much for not getting someone’s support. Isn’t it?
I don’t know why but I had a great imprint in my spirit to share this with my #Galaxy. I hope you make some sense out of my rambling. I hope you get the message. I hope you never lose your joy and light over what doesn’t really matter.
Above all, I pray you get all the love and support you need, and even when you don’t get it, I HOPE YOU NEVER LOSE YOURSELF.
Do have you a great Sunday and a wonderful new week.
I love you, now & always. ❤✨